Are you suffering from failure? It hurts doesn’t it.
Each time your memory replays the event, the feeling of regret kicks in and then you feel the pain.
Failure causes emotional pain. Whether you flunked an exam, a partner left you or you didn’t achieve what you were expecting.
It puts you in a dark and self-deprecating place. And if left unchecked, it can affect your entire life including your future.
Have you ever wondered why other people are better than others with what they do? Many factors can cause this but one of them is failure. People who suffered more failures and have endured will come out better than the rest.
To make life easy. Start accepting that failure is a part of life. It’s also a part of success. Below are steps to help you in overcoming failure.
Accept Your Failure
There is no one to blame for your failure other than yourself. You made the decision to do it and no one acted on your behalf.
Acceptance is the first step in overcoming failure. Without acceptance, you will never move ahead. You will always be in chains if you try to run away and forget it. The past will always haunt you.
Grieve if you have to. Let your emotional pain out. You have to undergo the process of enduring the pain. Unfortunately, only time can cure and heal this malady.
If only there was a magical pill that will instantly remove the agony in failing, unfortunately there isn’t. In order to be successful, you must endure the lessons of failure.
Once you have accepted your failure, don’t be too hard on yourself. You must learn to forgive yourself.
Everyone fails at one point in their time. Especially those people who are always pushing their limits; these people suffer the most failures than others. But these people are also the ones who succeed in life.
Don’t regret for doing something stupid because you learn from it. Regret for not doing something that you must have done.
There will always be another day. Forgive yourself from past failures, stand up again, dust yourself and move on.
Learn from Your Failure
“Failure is essential training,” says Sam Weinman, author of Win at Losing: How Our Biggest Setbacks Can Lead to Our Greatest Gains (TarcherPerigee, 2016).
Failure is a great teacher. Each time you fail, you learn something. It makes you stronger and wise. It teaches you to persevere. It will remind you of your past mistakes not to do them again.
Always remember, there is no success if there is no failure. Failure is the mother of success.
You will find countless stories of successful people who reached the point of giving up and or hitting rock bottom before they became successful. Those who learned from their failures and persevered usually succeeds in life.
Talk to Someone
Certain people cannot face failure alone. For them that is the hardest part. If you are one of these individuals, then you need someone to talk to.
If you are not comfortable talking to your close ones, there are people out there who can help. Don’t be ashamed. Don’t mind what other people might say.
We have different personalities and our levels of emotion differ. If you believe that talking to someone is the best way to overcome your failure, then do so by any means. Your life is too important to be impeded by what others will say.
It’s Not the End of the World
Hope is one of the greatest weapons we have in life. It gives us another chance. It tells us that another day is coming. And it gives us a sense of purpose and shows us that there are opportunities waiting for us.
Life will go on. Whether you like it or not. It will leave you if you don’t ride the bandwagon of life. Life is too short. Don’t waste your time on things that you can no longer change. It’s not the end of the world and it’s not the end of your life.
As long as you are breathing, there is hope. You still have a chance to carve your future the way you want it. So, stop dwelling in the past and proceed to the next step.
Move On and Succeed
Once you have accepted it, learned from it then it’s time to move on.
You are not a weakling. No matter how hard you are going through, you have to endure it. No one can take away your emotional pain. There is no magic pill that can eliminate it. Only time can heal it.
But once you’ve gotten over your failure, you will come out a better and stronger person. I’ve suffered a lot of failures over the years. I’ve reached the point of giving up and you can call me stupid but committing suicide at one point crossed my mind.
A bright and promising future awaits for you. You now possess the experience that other people don’t. This will help you move faster in your journey in life.
Failures are blessings in disguise. It builds your character. Gives you strength. It teaches you to become cautious. And points you to the right direction.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy (Desiderata).
Move on and unstuck your life!